genderpunkrock

genderpunkrock:

genderpunkrock:

germaniumshepherd:

"this is a good new gender because we stole it from truscum ppl and it pisses them off"

Wow…. so a motivation to create a new gender is to piss off truscum… ok

Its as legitimate a reason as any lmao and the vast majority of the time at least a few…

"Actual trans people"

Damn right I say “actual trans people”.  If you think being trans means picking a gender because it pisses other people off, I got news for you - you’re just a douchebag, not trans.

genderpunkrock

genderpunkrock:

germaniumshepherd:

"this is a good new gender because we stole it from truscum ppl and it pisses them off"

Wow…. so a motivation to create a new gender is to piss off truscum… ok

Its as legitimate a reason as any lmao and the vast majority of the time at least a few people will actually prefer that label cry more

Aaaand this is why no one will ever take tumblr trans people seriously.  They literally see picking a gender as some sort of game.  Forget people who actually feel like they were born in the wrong body trying to hold on to the term “trans” that THEY have historically owned. - the real trans people are teenagers who are just picking a new gender every day for super legitimate reasons, like pissing people off. 

It is disgusting that you’ve appropriated an entire identity from actual trans people and have turned it into a joke.

cisharming

cisharming:

Let me grind this in a little more for you guys.

"cis" (from cisgender) means you identify as the gender you were assigned.

Cis does not mean:

  • You are comfortable with your “body.”
  • "gender you were born with." You’re not born with a gender.
  • "straight." Being cis has nothing to do with your sexuality.

So, can cis people stop altering the definition and spreading misinformation?

You might not be aware of this, living on Tumblr and all.  But I’d bet 90%+ of “cis” people have never even heard the word cis and couldn’t care less about your definition. The vast majority of people don’t feel they were “assigned” a gender. 

You might be shocked how seldom “cis” people even think the word “gender”.

It boggles my mind how many people on Tumblr have the perspective that if someone doesn’t find them or their “oppressed group” sexually or romantically attractive, they’re entitled to demand a good reason from that person and call them a bigot if they aren’t satisfied.

I’ve always known SJWs are an entitled bunch, but to actually feel entitled to someone else’s feelings or an explanation for why they’re not attracted to you shows such a lack of appreciation of other people’s autonomy that it blows my mind.

No person or group has “earned” another person’s sexual or romantic attraction.  You CAN’T “deserve” someone else’s attraction.  It doesn’t matter if you’re just as good as everyone else, they can STILL not be attracted to you because it is their own fucking body and it is incredibly wrong to tell them they’re obligated to offer it to you/your oppressed group if they’re willing to offer it to anyone at all.

igneuspraeceptis

Anonymous asked:

would you ever date a trans person?

i--miss-my-wings answered:

No, I’m only sexually and romantically attracted to cis males. 

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catsickles:

lmaaaooo lovin casual transphobia

Aint even casual
This kid str8 up said “i wont date trans people”

this kid str8 up said “i’m only sexually and romantically attracted to cis males”

you can like whoever tf you want to like

in this case, she likes cis males

she doesnt have to date trans people

if she doesnt want to date trans people

very simple

This is old as fuck
And you’re transphobic as shit

I’m not really seeing the transphobia here. People choose from a whole variety of reasons to not date someone, right? From things like social class, physical looks or choices of interest, all of which are accepted because thats just what they are attracted to. Its not that they dislike everything outside of what they want to date, they just don’t want to date them. When a girl tells me she’s not attracted to black people, is it really fair of me to mark that down as racism? She hasn’t really acted hostile or discriminated against me or other black people. She simply said she would not date me because i don’t fit her criteria. Same with miss-my-wings here, she didn’t say anything about disliking or hating trans, she just said she’s only attracted to cis males.

I’m sure you could find plenty of people here who wouldn’t date cis males/females for the sole reason of them being cis. Is that preference cisphobic? (if your willing to even say it exists) 

I understand that a lot of the trans community is fighting an uphill battle when it comes to things like romance and dating in general, its something i’ve seen often with my friends. But you cannot force a person to be attracted to someone when its simply not what they are looking for in a partner. Thats just not how it works.

Yeah im not gonna make a trans/nb person date their oppressor
Ur transphobic too

I guess if you say so that must be how it is. Great discussion. 

Yep maybe because im trans so i get a say on what is/isnt transphobic
And bc i failed to answer it previously, a white person “just preferring white people” is in fact racist

Well by that logic…
i’m black so as a minority i get a say on what is/isn’t racist, so i say a white person “just preferring to date white people” is in fact, not racist. (which… isn’t what i said, mind you, i never specified the race of the girl or what race she preferred, just that she wasn’t attracted to black people) 

And if i can find 1 trans person who agrees with me on the point that it is not transphobia, does that make it fair game again? Because they have just as fair say as you do, right?

Yeah u do but seeing as ive had extensive amounts of other people of color say otherwise im inclined to lean that way
Probably not lol bc chances are the ones that agree with you are dfab who hold privilege over me as a trans woman :)

Im trans. And thats not transphobic. You just get offented quickly. Some people say they’re gay and if a woman says he’s a sexist cause he dosent want a woman is the same thing…

SHUT THE FUCK UP FOR TWO SECONDs OH MY FUCKING GOD
I’m dfab and I’m trans and I agree with
genderpunkrock
. sit the fuck down and listen why buddy
A cis person not wanting to date a trans person is transphobic. Why? The cissexist asshole doesn’t want to date a trans person because of their fucking genitals. A trans person not wanting to date a cis person isn’t cisphobia. Cisphobia isn’t real. The reason they wouldn’t go out with a cis person is because they’re afraid or resent cis people because of the way cis people treat trans people. They’re afraid of being abused by cis people (I’m not going to go into detail about the different types of abuse)
Now, the same thing kinda applies with race. For white people not wanting to date a black person, it’s based off of their skin color. For a black person (or any other PoC for that matter) not wanting to date a white person, it’s based off of fear of abuse and oppression. Now a gay guy not wanting to date a woman? That’s solely based off of gender preference. It’s not sexist whatsoever. How DARE you compare race and gender to sexuality.

Firstly. “Why? The cissexist asshole doesn’t want to date a trans person because of their fucking genitals.” That is a valid reason to date/not date someone. You have no place to label someone based off what they look for in a partner. Its their right to choose what they look for in a partner, and should not be judged for it. Plain and simple. 

Secondly. If you think the only physical difference between whites and blacks is skin color, you need to step out the house and look at some black people for once in your life. There are actual physical differences between different races, differences that some find attractive and some don’t, and they are not racist for finding that so. And yes, skin color is also a valid reason to not find someone physically attractive, to each his own. 

I don’t understand why every thing has to be a matter of discrimination you guys, the person has what she wants in her mind, so thats what she is going to go for, plain and simple. 

:/ Really. Really. Fucking really. Are. Are you. *gently puts hand to face* It’s fucking cissexist to not date somebody because of their genitals. It’s racist to not date a black person because they’re black. Relationships are based off of romantic attraction. Not what somebody has in their fucking pants. Also, you’re seriously racist if you say “black people have physical differences so it’s ok for them to not want to date a black person” because that literally sums up to “black people are physically different and it’s ok for them to find black people disgusting”

I have an asexual friend who is going to be shocked to learn that she is transphobic, mysogynistic, misandric, racist, anti-semitic, thin-phobic, fat-phobic, and an ableist. 

What a bitch for not being sexually and romantically interested in people of those groups.

:/

It’s one thing to be ace and or aro but it’s another thing to be sexual and exclude certain groups you know

Why is that?  If an asexual/aromantic can not feel sexual or romantic attraction to everyone, why isn’t it okay to feel sexual or romantic attraction to particular groups?

It is terrifying how “rapey” your point of view comes across - implying that “certain groups’ have some sort of right for everyone to find them attractive as a potential sexual or romantic partner - or to say “if you find ANYONE attractive, you must find ME attractive or you’re a bigot”.

I’ve said it before, but no one owes you anything. The sorority girls at UCSB didn’t owe it to Elliot Roger to sleep with him.  Maren Sanchez wasn’t obligated to go to prom with the boy who attacked her when she turned him down.  Nobody even owes you any explanation at all about why they aren’t attracted to you sexually and/or romantically.  You need to just take no for an answer. 

Calling someone transphobic, sexist, misogynistic, or whatever because they aren’t interested in you in that way makes you look like an entitled rape apologist.  You’re telling the world that somehow the other person is “bad” for rejecting you: that you have a right to their affection.  You don’t, and to even suggest otherwise is absolutely terrifying and the epitome of rape culture.

Ew ew EW I had NEVER BROUGHT UP THAT POINT doNT SHO VE WORDS INTO MY MOUTH This isn’t even aboUT THAT MRA PIECE OF SHIT FIRST OF ALL second of all, if you don’t feel a romantic or sexual attraction to anybody that’s WAY DIFFERENT than feeling sexual attraction but not to an entire GROUP IM TRYING TO SAY THAT ITS FUCKING RACIST NOT TO DATE SOMEONE BECAUSE OF THEIR RACE, AND ITS CISSEXIST NOT TO DATE SOMEBODY SIMPLY BECAUSE THEYRE TRANS IF YOURE ARO OR ACE AND THATS THE REASON GHAT YOU DO NT DATE OR CHOOSE TO HAVE SEX WITH SOMEBODY THEN THATS A OK DO NOT TURN THE FUCKING CONVERSATION TO RAPE CULTURE BECAUSE
THATS NOT WHAT THE FUCK THIS IS ABOUT

Rape culture is EXACTLY what this is about.  Calling people bigots because of who they are sexually or romantically attracted to is rape culture. 

You seem to miss my point:  No one owes you ANY reason for not being attracted to you.  It is supporting rape culture to say that they even NEED a reason to not be attracted to you.  It doesn’t matter if they’re not attracted to you because of the color of your hair, the size of your hands, the color of your skin, what genitals you have, or just the fact that you remind them of someone they hate.  They don’t owe you a reason.  You have no right to their affection.  Calling them bigots tells the world that you think they are somehow “bad” or “wrong” or not finding you attractive - that if they were good people, they would want to date you. 

Your statements about aromantic and asexual people being okay but that if someone has romantic feelings, they must have those feelings for everyone is literally the same reasoning Elliot Rogers had - that if the sorority girls were sleeping with other guys, they were obligated to sleep with him too.  He had decided that because they were sexually active but not willing to sleep with him, they were sluts and deserved to die. 

I don’t get how you don’t see that this is all about rape culture.  People are autonomous beings with every right to decide who they do and don’t want to date or sleep with and to criticize them for those choices is the very foundation of rape culture.

O H MY FUCKIJNNN G. GOD
IM trY IG N TO SAY THAT IF YOU DONT FEEL AN ATTRACTION TO SOM EBODY THEN THATS OK, BUT IF YOU REJECT THEM BASED OFF THEIR FUCKING RACE OR WHT THEY HAVE IN THEIR PANTS THEN YOURE RACIST AD CISSEXIST IF YOU DONT DATE A BLACK PERSON BECAUSE THEYRE BLACK THEN THATS RACIST IF YOU DONT DATE A TRANS PERSON BECAUSE THEYRE TRANS THEN YOURE CISSEXIST THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO with tHAT MRA PIECE OF SHIT HOLY FUVK
ITS OK TO REJECT SOMEBODY IF YOURE NOT ROMANTICALLY OR SEXAULLY ATTRACTED TO THEM BUT THAT DOESNT MEAN YOU CANT BE RACIST OR CISSEXIST

I DONT EVEN WANT TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT THIS AN YMORA

If you continue saying its okay to call someone a bigot because they aren’t attracted to you, you’re enabling people like Elliott Rogers to take it to the next step:  To him, it was okay to shoot up those sorority ‘sluts’ because they rejected him.  Once you slap on a label, whether it is slut, transphobe, racist, sexist, or whatever, you’re dehumanizing them and making it clear that you believe THEY are in the wrong for not feeling attraction to you.  While you personally might not go out and rape or murder someone for rejecting you, you’re enabling people like Elliott Rogers and contributing to the culture of rape we live in. 

The only correct response when someone says “I’m not attracted to X for Y reason” is “The reason doesn’t matter.  You’re free to be attracted to anyone you want or no one at all.”  

Any other response implies that you think there is a “right” form of attraction and that everyone else is “wrong”.  

If you seriously took a step back you’d realize that your criticism of people’s sexual and romantic choices is very much what rape culture is about. 

It is pretty disgusting that you don’t see it and continue defending your perspective that people should be criticized for their sexual and romantic attractions. 

Back the fuck up, asshole.

Nobody is fucking saying that except you and you are fucking disgusting for doing so.

I tried to explain to you why you can’t just not be attracted to certain groups in another permutation of this thread, but let’s give you the short version if you’re too cowardly to click that link: Whatever criteria you have for attraction to cis people, trans people also have those qualities. The only quality trans people don’t have is cisness. So to disqualify trans people based on their transness is transphobia.

Even if you have a 100% revulsion to cock, you can date trans women, and even fuck trans women. Even if you have a 100% revulsion to pussy you can date and fuck trans men. Their womanhood and manhood are not contained within their gonads, that’s so unbelievably essentialist I don’t even know where to begin.

People are allowed to be attracted to whatever qualities they want.

They should not disqualify people who have those qualities on the basis of their other identities.

This isn’t about entitlement, pisscouch, it’s about erasure and stigma. Go ahead. Tell me a criteria for attraction you think cis people have that no trans person has. Try to avoid making it transphobic. You’ll fail. Every single one of your possible responses will boil down to “Well, trans women aren’t really women” or “I am not attracted to people because of their trans status”.

And don’t you fucking dare compare us to that monster again.

I compare you to Elliott Rogers because you have the same warped point of view and I will not stop just because you think that YOUR right to demand that other people be attracted to you is more justified than HIS right to demand that other people be attracted to him.  You’re both making the same demands.

Do you even hear yourself?  You’re telling other people that they must find you attractive or they’re bigots.  They don’t have to find ANYONE attractive.  It is their attraction to give or not give for even the slightest of reasons.  If they don’t like one of your teeth - they can not to be attracted to you.  If they don’t like the color of your hair, they can not be attracted to you.  And yes, if someone decides they’re only into black guys or not into black guys, or only into trans women or not into trans women, that is all okay, because nobody else has ANY right to another person’s attraction. People are allowed to be as shallow or deep as they want in picking a partner.  They can choose solely on the basis of whether their prospective partner has a six pack or whether they make a lot of money or whether the person likes their favorite poet. 

And here you are demanding that people provide you with a reason for not being attracted to you.  You demand some “criteria” that disqualifies you.  You don’t have a right to demand that.  THAT is why I compare you to Elliott Rogers.  He also thought that if someone was sexually active, he could demand that they be sexually active with him.  I’m sure he often asked why women wouldn’t sleep with him - to give him one good reason why he shouldn’t be able to fuck them.  Do you think he had a right to ask those sorority girls for a reason why they wouldn’t fuck him?  Did they NEED a reason?  Should they default to wanting to fuck EVERYONE and then ruling people out one by one?  Is that really how you think the world works?  That everyone should just naturally want to sleep with everyone else? 

It is completely disgusting that you think you have a right to demand people give you a reason they’re not attracted to you and no amount of calling me names will ever cover that up.  You are exactly what allows situations like Elliott Rogers to happen.

Your head is so far up your own ass it’s amazing you can see the keyboard to type.

You’re reducing this issue to a personal issue when it is a cultural one. Nobody, not me, not catsickles, not genderpunkrock, nobody has said “if you will not sleep with me, personally, you’re transphobic”. That is what the UCSB shooter did. He said “If you do not sleep with me, personally, I will fuck shit up”.

I am saying, however, that cultural standards of beauty have rendered trans women simultaneously hypersexualized in the form of tranny porn, and asexual insofar as we are not desirable as sexual partners, and that a similar but not quite equal dynamic plays out for trans men, and that colours individual choices like this one.

If OP is attracted to men, then there are in all probability trans men who fit her criteria for romantic viability, setting aside the cis/trans divide for a moment. So, what does transness add? Socially, nothing. No, really. Trans men are men. So trans men can have just as much of a range of traits as cis men do.

Bodily? That’s different, certainly. But think about this for a second. Really engage with what you’re saying. You’re saying it’s okay to be attracted to someone, but for that attraction to be disqualified because of something about their body that person cannot control. If a man is diagnosed with cancer, does that justify divorcing him? If a man loses an arm, does that justify breaking up with him? If a man has an eating disorder or depression or bipolar disorder, does that justify turning him down?

Do you see how this works now? You are literally justifying discrimination on the basis of how someone’s body is configured. That someone is qualified for a job, but they’re trans, does that justify not hiring them? That someone is running for office, but they’re black, does that justify not voting for them? Same logic. We’re not saying that there are no unqualified marginalized people or that someone must hire/elect every marginalized person who wants the job, we’re saying that there probably are people who are both qualified and trans, or qualified and black, and to disqualify them on the basis of being black or trans is fucked up. It is racist no matter what definition you use and it’s severely transphobic.

And you know what? OP is allowed to refuse to date a trans person she meets. That’s her prerogative. She is not, however, immune from people putting the disqualification of all trans people in a wider context and showing it for what it is, a context you are sorely fucking lacking.

Read for content and context next time, asshole, before you go around spouting your irrelevant and facile bullshit.

I love that you keep calling me names when you’re the rape apologist demanding that people have a reason that YOU approve of for not being attracted to someone. 

You don’t get to decide whose reasons are good and whose are bad.

And really, since all of your “arguments” are simply cursing at me and calling me names, its clear you realize you have no basis for anything.  Goodbye, rapist.

igneuspraeceptis

Anonymous asked:

would you ever date a trans person?

i--miss-my-wings answered:

No, I’m only sexually and romantically attracted to cis males. 

igneuspraeceptis:

andyoushouldfeelbad:

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catsickles:

lmaaaooo lovin casual transphobia

Aint even casual
This kid str8 up said “i wont date trans people”

this kid str8 up said “i’m only sexually and romantically attracted to cis males”

you can like whoever tf you want to like

in this case, she likes cis males

she doesnt have to date trans people

if she doesnt want to date trans people

very simple

This is old as fuck
And you’re transphobic as shit

I’m not really seeing the transphobia here. People choose from a whole variety of reasons to not date someone, right? From things like social class, physical looks or choices of interest, all of which are accepted because thats just what they are attracted to. Its not that they dislike everything outside of what they want to date, they just don’t want to date them. When a girl tells me she’s not attracted to black people, is it really fair of me to mark that down as racism? She hasn’t really acted hostile or discriminated against me or other black people. She simply said she would not date me because i don’t fit her criteria. Same with miss-my-wings here, she didn’t say anything about disliking or hating trans, she just said she’s only attracted to cis males.

I’m sure you could find plenty of people here who wouldn’t date cis males/females for the sole reason of them being cis. Is that preference cisphobic? (if your willing to even say it exists) 

I understand that a lot of the trans community is fighting an uphill battle when it comes to things like romance and dating in general, its something i’ve seen often with my friends. But you cannot force a person to be attracted to someone when its simply not what they are looking for in a partner. Thats just not how it works.

Yeah im not gonna make a trans/nb person date their oppressor
Ur transphobic too

I guess if you say so that must be how it is. Great discussion. 

Yep maybe because im trans so i get a say on what is/isnt transphobic
And bc i failed to answer it previously, a white person “just preferring white people” is in fact racist

Well by that logic…
i’m black so as a minority i get a say on what is/isn’t racist, so i say a white person “just preferring to date white people” is in fact, not racist. (which… isn’t what i said, mind you, i never specified the race of the girl or what race she preferred, just that she wasn’t attracted to black people) 

And if i can find 1 trans person who agrees with me on the point that it is not transphobia, does that make it fair game again? Because they have just as fair say as you do, right?

Yeah u do but seeing as ive had extensive amounts of other people of color say otherwise im inclined to lean that way
Probably not lol bc chances are the ones that agree with you are dfab who hold privilege over me as a trans woman :)

Im trans. And thats not transphobic. You just get offented quickly. Some people say they’re gay and if a woman says he’s a sexist cause he dosent want a woman is the same thing…

SHUT THE FUCK UP FOR TWO SECONDs OH MY FUCKING GOD
I’m dfab and I’m trans and I agree with
genderpunkrock
. sit the fuck down and listen why buddy
A cis person not wanting to date a trans person is transphobic. Why? The cissexist asshole doesn’t want to date a trans person because of their fucking genitals. A trans person not wanting to date a cis person isn’t cisphobia. Cisphobia isn’t real. The reason they wouldn’t go out with a cis person is because they’re afraid or resent cis people because of the way cis people treat trans people. They’re afraid of being abused by cis people (I’m not going to go into detail about the different types of abuse)
Now, the same thing kinda applies with race. For white people not wanting to date a black person, it’s based off of their skin color. For a black person (or any other PoC for that matter) not wanting to date a white person, it’s based off of fear of abuse and oppression. Now a gay guy not wanting to date a woman? That’s solely based off of gender preference. It’s not sexist whatsoever. How DARE you compare race and gender to sexuality.

Firstly. “Why? The cissexist asshole doesn’t want to date a trans person because of their fucking genitals.” That is a valid reason to date/not date someone. You have no place to label someone based off what they look for in a partner. Its their right to choose what they look for in a partner, and should not be judged for it. Plain and simple. 

Secondly. If you think the only physical difference between whites and blacks is skin color, you need to step out the house and look at some black people for once in your life. There are actual physical differences between different races, differences that some find attractive and some don’t, and they are not racist for finding that so. And yes, skin color is also a valid reason to not find someone physically attractive, to each his own. 

I don’t understand why every thing has to be a matter of discrimination you guys, the person has what she wants in her mind, so thats what she is going to go for, plain and simple. 

:/ Really. Really. Fucking really. Are. Are you. *gently puts hand to face* It’s fucking cissexist to not date somebody because of their genitals. It’s racist to not date a black person because they’re black. Relationships are based off of romantic attraction. Not what somebody has in their fucking pants. Also, you’re seriously racist if you say “black people have physical differences so it’s ok for them to not want to date a black person” because that literally sums up to “black people are physically different and it’s ok for them to find black people disgusting”

I have an asexual friend who is going to be shocked to learn that she is transphobic, mysogynistic, misandric, racist, anti-semitic, thin-phobic, fat-phobic, and an ableist. 

What a bitch for not being sexually and romantically interested in people of those groups.

:/

It’s one thing to be ace and or aro but it’s another thing to be sexual and exclude certain groups you know

Why is that?  If an asexual/aromantic can not feel sexual or romantic attraction to everyone, why isn’t it okay to feel sexual or romantic attraction to particular groups?

It is terrifying how “rapey” your point of view comes across - implying that “certain groups’ have some sort of right for everyone to find them attractive as a potential sexual or romantic partner - or to say “if you find ANYONE attractive, you must find ME attractive or you’re a bigot”.

I’ve said it before, but no one owes you anything. The sorority girls at UCSB didn’t owe it to Elliot Roger to sleep with him.  Maren Sanchez wasn’t obligated to go to prom with the boy who attacked her when she turned him down.  Nobody even owes you any explanation at all about why they aren’t attracted to you sexually and/or romantically.  You need to just take no for an answer. 

Calling someone transphobic, sexist, misogynistic, or whatever because they aren’t interested in you in that way makes you look like an entitled rape apologist.  You’re telling the world that somehow the other person is “bad” for rejecting you: that you have a right to their affection.  You don’t, and to even suggest otherwise is absolutely terrifying and the epitome of rape culture.

Ew ew EW I had NEVER BROUGHT UP THAT POINT doNT SHO VE WORDS INTO MY MOUTH This isn’t even aboUT THAT MRA PIECE OF SHIT FIRST OF ALL second of all, if you don’t feel a romantic or sexual attraction to anybody that’s WAY DIFFERENT than feeling sexual attraction but not to an entire GROUP IM TRYING TO SAY THAT ITS FUCKING RACIST NOT TO DATE SOMEONE BECAUSE OF THEIR RACE, AND ITS CISSEXIST NOT TO DATE SOMEBODY SIMPLY BECAUSE THEYRE TRANS IF YOURE ARO OR ACE AND THATS THE REASON GHAT YOU DO NT DATE OR CHOOSE TO HAVE SEX WITH SOMEBODY THEN THATS A OK DO NOT TURN THE FUCKING CONVERSATION TO RAPE CULTURE BECAUSE
THATS NOT WHAT THE FUCK THIS IS ABOUT

Rape culture is EXACTLY what this is about.  Calling people bigots because of who they are sexually or romantically attracted to is rape culture. 

You seem to miss my point:  No one owes you ANY reason for not being attracted to you.  It is supporting rape culture to say that they even NEED a reason to not be attracted to you.  It doesn’t matter if they’re not attracted to you because of the color of your hair, the size of your hands, the color of your skin, what genitals you have, or just the fact that you remind them of someone they hate.  They don’t owe you a reason.  You have no right to their affection.  Calling them bigots tells the world that you think they are somehow “bad” or “wrong” or not finding you attractive - that if they were good people, they would want to date you. 

Your statements about aromantic and asexual people being okay but that if someone has romantic feelings, they must have those feelings for everyone is literally the same reasoning Elliot Rogers had - that if the sorority girls were sleeping with other guys, they were obligated to sleep with him too.  He had decided that because they were sexually active but not willing to sleep with him, they were sluts and deserved to die. 

I don’t get how you don’t see that this is all about rape culture.  People are autonomous beings with every right to decide who they do and don’t want to date or sleep with and to criticize them for those choices is the very foundation of rape culture.

O H MY FUCKIJNNN G. GOD
IM trY IG N TO SAY THAT IF YOU DONT FEEL AN ATTRACTION TO SOM EBODY THEN THATS OK, BUT IF YOU REJECT THEM BASED OFF THEIR FUCKING RACE OR WHT THEY HAVE IN THEIR PANTS THEN YOURE RACIST AD CISSEXIST IF YOU DONT DATE A BLACK PERSON BECAUSE THEYRE BLACK THEN THATS RACIST IF YOU DONT DATE A TRANS PERSON BECAUSE THEYRE TRANS THEN YOURE CISSEXIST THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO with tHAT MRA PIECE OF SHIT HOLY FUVK
ITS OK TO REJECT SOMEBODY IF YOURE NOT ROMANTICALLY OR SEXAULLY ATTRACTED TO THEM BUT THAT DOESNT MEAN YOU CANT BE RACIST OR CISSEXIST

I DONT EVEN WANT TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT THIS AN YMORA

If you continue saying its okay to call someone a bigot because they aren’t attracted to you, you’re enabling people like Elliott Rogers to take it to the next step:  To him, it was okay to shoot up those sorority ‘sluts’ because they rejected him.  Once you slap on a label, whether it is slut, transphobe, racist, sexist, or whatever, you’re dehumanizing them and making it clear that you believe THEY are in the wrong for not feeling attraction to you.  While you personally might not go out and rape or murder someone for rejecting you, you’re enabling people like Elliott Rogers and contributing to the culture of rape we live in. 

The only correct response when someone says “I’m not attracted to X for Y reason” is “The reason doesn’t matter.  You’re free to be attracted to anyone you want or no one at all.”  

Any other response implies that you think there is a “right” form of attraction and that everyone else is “wrong”.  

If you seriously took a step back you’d realize that your criticism of people’s sexual and romantic choices is very much what rape culture is about. 

It is pretty disgusting that you don’t see it and continue defending your perspective that people should be criticized for their sexual and romantic attractions. 

Back the fuck up, asshole.

Nobody is fucking saying that except you and you are fucking disgusting for doing so.

I tried to explain to you why you can’t just not be attracted to certain groups in another permutation of this thread, but let’s give you the short version if you’re too cowardly to click that link: Whatever criteria you have for attraction to cis people, trans people also have those qualities. The only quality trans people don’t have is cisness. So to disqualify trans people based on their transness is transphobia.

Even if you have a 100% revulsion to cock, you can date trans women, and even fuck trans women. Even if you have a 100% revulsion to pussy you can date and fuck trans men. Their womanhood and manhood are not contained within their gonads, that’s so unbelievably essentialist I don’t even know where to begin.

People are allowed to be attracted to whatever qualities they want.

They should not disqualify people who have those qualities on the basis of their other identities.

This isn’t about entitlement, pisscouch, it’s about erasure and stigma. Go ahead. Tell me a criteria for attraction you think cis people have that no trans person has. Try to avoid making it transphobic. You’ll fail. Every single one of your possible responses will boil down to “Well, trans women aren’t really women” or “I am not attracted to people because of their trans status”.

And don’t you fucking dare compare us to that monster again.

I compare you to Elliott Rogers because you have the same warped point of view and I will not stop just because you think that YOUR right to demand that other people be attracted to you is more justified than HIS right to demand that other people be attracted to him.  You’re both making the same demands.

Do you even hear yourself?  You’re telling other people that they must find you attractive or they’re bigots.  They don’t have to find ANYONE attractive.  It is their attraction to give or not give for even the slightest of reasons.  If they don’t like one of your teeth - they can not to be attracted to you.  If they don’t like the color of your hair, they can not be attracted to you.  And yes, if someone decides they’re only into black guys or not into black guys, or only into trans women or not into trans women, that is all okay, because nobody else has ANY right to another person’s attraction. People are allowed to be as shallow or deep as they want in picking a partner.  They can choose solely on the basis of whether their prospective partner has a six pack or whether they make a lot of money or whether the person likes their favorite poet. 

And here you are demanding that people provide you with a reason for not being attracted to you.  You demand some “criteria” that disqualifies you.  You don’t have a right to demand that.  THAT is why I compare you to Elliott Rogers.  He also thought that if someone was sexually active, he could demand that they be sexually active with him.  I’m sure he often asked why women wouldn’t sleep with him - to give him one good reason why he shouldn’t be able to fuck them.  Do you think he had a right to ask those sorority girls for a reason why they wouldn’t fuck him?  Did they NEED a reason?  Should they default to wanting to fuck EVERYONE and then ruling people out one by one?  Is that really how you think the world works?  That everyone should just naturally want to sleep with everyone else? 

It is completely disgusting that you think you have a right to demand people give you a reason they’re not attracted to you and no amount of calling me names will ever cover that up.  You are exactly what allows situations like Elliott Rogers to happen.

funwithsjws

Anonymous asked:

Haha oh wow you are a pathetic liar. It's no wonder most of your best friend bloggers and followers on here are all white and straight.

vladimirnootin answered:

yarriinwonderland, mickeyblowsyourmind, cosmicallycosmopolitan, theharlequinrose, I’m sorry to inform all of you that you are white and straight.

funwithsjws:

mickeyblowsyourmind:

vladimirnootin:

sickhypnotik:

digital-joker:

cosmicallycosmopolitan:

theharlequinrose:

Please, tell me again about my whiteness.

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imma cry

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this is my new favorite post.

Everyone is 3 white for me

YOU NIGGAS DON’T BENEFIT FROM THE WHITE PRIVILEGE AS MUCH AS I DO THO

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Bisexual Puerto Ricans are white and straight now apparently

This is why its funny when someone’s entire “argument” is based on their oppression status (i.e. I’m trans so only I can talk about trans issues, I’m black so only I can talk about racism, I’m a woman so only I can talk about sexism, etc. etc.). 

I have a copy of the SJW “script” here.  It says the next line is “All those people have internalized racism, so their opinions don’t matter.”

space-gem

Anonymous asked:

would you ever date a trans person?

i--miss-my-wings answered:

No, I’m only sexually and romantically attracted to cis males. 

space-gem:

andyoushouldfeelbad:

space-gem:

andyoushouldfeelbad:

space-gem:

andyoushouldfeelbad:

space-gem:

meltheatist:

space-gem:

darkcooks:

genderpunkrock:

meltheatist:

genderpunkrock:

meltheatist:

genderpunkrock:

meltheatist:

genderpunkrock:

ichangemyurlmorethanmyunderwear:

genderpunkrock:

catsickles:

lmaaaooo lovin casual transphobia

Aint even casual
This kid str8 up said “i wont date trans people”

this kid str8 up said “i’m only sexually and romantically attracted to cis males”

you can like whoever tf you want to like

in this case, she likes cis males

she doesnt have to date trans people

if she doesnt want to date trans people

very simple

This is old as fuck
And you’re transphobic as shit

I’m not really seeing the transphobia here. People choose from a whole variety of reasons to not date someone, right? From things like social class, physical looks or choices of interest, all of which are accepted because thats just what they are attracted to. Its not that they dislike everything outside of what they want to date, they just don’t want to date them. When a girl tells me she’s not attracted to black people, is it really fair of me to mark that down as racism? She hasn’t really acted hostile or discriminated against me or other black people. She simply said she would not date me because i don’t fit her criteria. Same with miss-my-wings here, she didn’t say anything about disliking or hating trans, she just said she’s only attracted to cis males.

I’m sure you could find plenty of people here who wouldn’t date cis males/females for the sole reason of them being cis. Is that preference cisphobic? (if your willing to even say it exists) 

I understand that a lot of the trans community is fighting an uphill battle when it comes to things like romance and dating in general, its something i’ve seen often with my friends. But you cannot force a person to be attracted to someone when its simply not what they are looking for in a partner. Thats just not how it works.

Yeah im not gonna make a trans/nb person date their oppressor
Ur transphobic too

I guess if you say so that must be how it is. Great discussion. 

Yep maybe because im trans so i get a say on what is/isnt transphobic
And bc i failed to answer it previously, a white person “just preferring white people” is in fact racist

Well by that logic…
i’m black so as a minority i get a say on what is/isn’t racist, so i say a white person “just preferring to date white people” is in fact, not racist. (which… isn’t what i said, mind you, i never specified the race of the girl or what race she preferred, just that she wasn’t attracted to black people) 

And if i can find 1 trans person who agrees with me on the point that it is not transphobia, does that make it fair game again? Because they have just as fair say as you do, right?

Yeah u do but seeing as ive had extensive amounts of other people of color say otherwise im inclined to lean that way
Probably not lol bc chances are the ones that agree with you are dfab who hold privilege over me as a trans woman :)

Im trans. And thats not transphobic. You just get offented quickly. Some people say they’re gay and if a woman says he’s a sexist cause he dosent want a woman is the same thing…

SHUT THE FUCK UP FOR TWO SECONDs OH MY FUCKING GOD
I’m dfab and I’m trans and I agree with
genderpunkrock
. sit the fuck down and listen why buddy
A cis person not wanting to date a trans person is transphobic. Why? The cissexist asshole doesn’t want to date a trans person because of their fucking genitals. A trans person not wanting to date a cis person isn’t cisphobia. Cisphobia isn’t real. The reason they wouldn’t go out with a cis person is because they’re afraid or resent cis people because of the way cis people treat trans people. They’re afraid of being abused by cis people (I’m not going to go into detail about the different types of abuse)
Now, the same thing kinda applies with race. For white people not wanting to date a black person, it’s based off of their skin color. For a black person (or any other PoC for that matter) not wanting to date a white person, it’s based off of fear of abuse and oppression. Now a gay guy not wanting to date a woman? That’s solely based off of gender preference. It’s not sexist whatsoever. How DARE you compare race and gender to sexuality.

Firstly. “Why? The cissexist asshole doesn’t want to date a trans person because of their fucking genitals.” That is a valid reason to date/not date someone. You have no place to label someone based off what they look for in a partner. Its their right to choose what they look for in a partner, and should not be judged for it. Plain and simple. 

Secondly. If you think the only physical difference between whites and blacks is skin color, you need to step out the house and look at some black people for once in your life. There are actual physical differences between different races, differences that some find attractive and some don’t, and they are not racist for finding that so. And yes, skin color is also a valid reason to not find someone physically attractive, to each his own. 

I don’t understand why every thing has to be a matter of discrimination you guys, the person has what she wants in her mind, so thats what she is going to go for, plain and simple. 

:/ Really. Really. Fucking really. Are. Are you. *gently puts hand to face* It’s fucking cissexist to not date somebody because of their genitals. It’s racist to not date a black person because they’re black. Relationships are based off of romantic attraction. Not what somebody has in their fucking pants. Also, you’re seriously racist if you say “black people have physical differences so it’s ok for them to not want to date a black person” because that literally sums up to “black people are physically different and it’s ok for them to find black people disgusting”

I have an asexual friend who is going to be shocked to learn that she is transphobic, mysogynistic, misandric, racist, anti-semitic, thin-phobic, fat-phobic, and an ableist. 

What a bitch for not being sexually and romantically interested in people of those groups.

:/

It’s one thing to be ace and or aro but it’s another thing to be sexual and exclude certain groups you know

Why is that?  If an asexual/aromantic can not feel sexual or romantic attraction to everyone, why isn’t it okay to feel sexual or romantic attraction to particular groups?

It is terrifying how “rapey” your point of view comes across - implying that “certain groups’ have some sort of right for everyone to find them attractive as a potential sexual or romantic partner - or to say “if you find ANYONE attractive, you must find ME attractive or you’re a bigot”.

I’ve said it before, but no one owes you anything. The sorority girls at UCSB didn’t owe it to Elliot Roger to sleep with him.  Maren Sanchez wasn’t obligated to go to prom with the boy who attacked her when she turned him down.  Nobody even owes you any explanation at all about why they aren’t attracted to you sexually and/or romantically.  You need to just take no for an answer. 

Calling someone transphobic, sexist, misogynistic, or whatever because they aren’t interested in you in that way makes you look like an entitled rape apologist.  You’re telling the world that somehow the other person is “bad” for rejecting you: that you have a right to their affection.  You don’t, and to even suggest otherwise is absolutely terrifying and the epitome of rape culture.

Ew ew EW I had NEVER BROUGHT UP THAT POINT doNT SHO VE WORDS INTO MY MOUTH This isn’t even aboUT THAT MRA PIECE OF SHIT FIRST OF ALL second of all, if you don’t feel a romantic or sexual attraction to anybody that’s WAY DIFFERENT than feeling sexual attraction but not to an entire GROUP IM TRYING TO SAY THAT ITS FUCKING RACIST NOT TO DATE SOMEONE BECAUSE OF THEIR RACE, AND ITS CISSEXIST NOT TO DATE SOMEBODY SIMPLY BECAUSE THEYRE TRANS IF YOURE ARO OR ACE AND THATS THE REASON GHAT YOU DO NT DATE OR CHOOSE TO HAVE SEX WITH SOMEBODY THEN THATS A OK DO NOT TURN THE FUCKING CONVERSATION TO RAPE CULTURE BECAUSE
THATS NOT WHAT THE FUCK THIS IS ABOUT

Rape culture is EXACTLY what this is about.  Calling people bigots because of who they are sexually or romantically attracted to is rape culture. 

You seem to miss my point:  No one owes you ANY reason for not being attracted to you.  It is supporting rape culture to say that they even NEED a reason to not be attracted to you.  It doesn’t matter if they’re not attracted to you because of the color of your hair, the size of your hands, the color of your skin, what genitals you have, or just the fact that you remind them of someone they hate.  They don’t owe you a reason.  You have no right to their affection.  Calling them bigots tells the world that you think they are somehow “bad” or “wrong” or not finding you attractive - that if they were good people, they would want to date you. 

Your statements about aromantic and asexual people being okay but that if someone has romantic feelings, they must have those feelings for everyone is literally the same reasoning Elliot Rogers had - that if the sorority girls were sleeping with other guys, they were obligated to sleep with him too.  He had decided that because they were sexually active but not willing to sleep with him, they were sluts and deserved to die. 

I don’t get how you don’t see that this is all about rape culture.  People are autonomous beings with every right to decide who they do and don’t want to date or sleep with and to criticize them for those choices is the very foundation of rape culture.

O H MY FUCKIJNNN G. GOD
IM trY IG N TO SAY THAT IF YOU DONT FEEL AN ATTRACTION TO SOM EBODY THEN THATS OK, BUT IF YOU REJECT THEM BASED OFF THEIR FUCKING RACE OR WHT THEY HAVE IN THEIR PANTS THEN YOURE RACIST AD CISSEXIST IF YOU DONT DATE A BLACK PERSON BECAUSE THEYRE BLACK THEN THATS RACIST IF YOU DONT DATE A TRANS PERSON BECAUSE THEYRE TRANS THEN YOURE CISSEXIST THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO with tHAT MRA PIECE OF SHIT HOLY FUVK
ITS OK TO REJECT SOMEBODY IF YOURE NOT ROMANTICALLY OR SEXAULLY ATTRACTED TO THEM BUT THAT DOESNT MEAN YOU CANT BE RACIST OR CISSEXIST

I DONT EVEN WANT TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT THIS AN YMORA

If you continue saying its okay to call someone a bigot because they aren’t attracted to you, you’re enabling people like Elliott Rogers to take it to the next step:  To him, it was okay to shoot up those sorority ‘sluts’ because they rejected him.  Once you slap on a label, whether it is slut, transphobe, racist, sexist, or whatever, you’re dehumanizing them and making it clear that you believe THEY are in the wrong for not feeling attraction to you.  While you personally might not go out and rape or murder someone for rejecting you, you’re enabling people like Elliott Rogers and contributing to the culture of rape we live in. 

The only correct response when someone says “I’m not attracted to X for Y reason” is “The reason doesn’t matter.  You’re free to be attracted to anyone you want or no one at all.”  

Any other response implies that you think there is a “right” form of attraction and that everyone else is “wrong”.  

If you seriously took a step back you’d realize that your criticism of people’s sexual and romantic choices is very much what rape culture is about. 

It is pretty disgusting that you don’t see it and continue defending your perspective that people should be criticized for their sexual and romantic attractions. 

space-gem

Anonymous asked:

would you ever date a trans person?

i--miss-my-wings answered:

No, I’m only sexually and romantically attracted to cis males. 

space-gem:

andyoushouldfeelbad:

space-gem:

andyoushouldfeelbad:

space-gem:

meltheatist:

space-gem:

darkcooks:

genderpunkrock:

meltheatist:

genderpunkrock:

meltheatist:

genderpunkrock:

meltheatist:

genderpunkrock:

ichangemyurlmorethanmyunderwear:

genderpunkrock:

catsickles:

lmaaaooo lovin casual transphobia

Aint even casual
This kid str8 up said “i wont date trans people”

this kid str8 up said “i’m only sexually and romantically attracted to cis males”

you can like whoever tf you want to like

in this case, she likes cis males

she doesnt have to date trans people

if she doesnt want to date trans people

very simple

This is old as fuck
And you’re transphobic as shit

I’m not really seeing the transphobia here. People choose from a whole variety of reasons to not date someone, right? From things like social class, physical looks or choices of interest, all of which are accepted because thats just what they are attracted to. Its not that they dislike everything outside of what they want to date, they just don’t want to date them. When a girl tells me she’s not attracted to black people, is it really fair of me to mark that down as racism? She hasn’t really acted hostile or discriminated against me or other black people. She simply said she would not date me because i don’t fit her criteria. Same with miss-my-wings here, she didn’t say anything about disliking or hating trans, she just said she’s only attracted to cis males.

I’m sure you could find plenty of people here who wouldn’t date cis males/females for the sole reason of them being cis. Is that preference cisphobic? (if your willing to even say it exists) 

I understand that a lot of the trans community is fighting an uphill battle when it comes to things like romance and dating in general, its something i’ve seen often with my friends. But you cannot force a person to be attracted to someone when its simply not what they are looking for in a partner. Thats just not how it works.

Yeah im not gonna make a trans/nb person date their oppressor
Ur transphobic too

I guess if you say so that must be how it is. Great discussion. 

Yep maybe because im trans so i get a say on what is/isnt transphobic
And bc i failed to answer it previously, a white person “just preferring white people” is in fact racist

Well by that logic…
i’m black so as a minority i get a say on what is/isn’t racist, so i say a white person “just preferring to date white people” is in fact, not racist. (which… isn’t what i said, mind you, i never specified the race of the girl or what race she preferred, just that she wasn’t attracted to black people) 

And if i can find 1 trans person who agrees with me on the point that it is not transphobia, does that make it fair game again? Because they have just as fair say as you do, right?

Yeah u do but seeing as ive had extensive amounts of other people of color say otherwise im inclined to lean that way
Probably not lol bc chances are the ones that agree with you are dfab who hold privilege over me as a trans woman :)

Im trans. And thats not transphobic. You just get offented quickly. Some people say they’re gay and if a woman says he’s a sexist cause he dosent want a woman is the same thing…

SHUT THE FUCK UP FOR TWO SECONDs OH MY FUCKING GOD
I’m dfab and I’m trans and I agree with
genderpunkrock
. sit the fuck down and listen why buddy
A cis person not wanting to date a trans person is transphobic. Why? The cissexist asshole doesn’t want to date a trans person because of their fucking genitals. A trans person not wanting to date a cis person isn’t cisphobia. Cisphobia isn’t real. The reason they wouldn’t go out with a cis person is because they’re afraid or resent cis people because of the way cis people treat trans people. They’re afraid of being abused by cis people (I’m not going to go into detail about the different types of abuse)
Now, the same thing kinda applies with race. For white people not wanting to date a black person, it’s based off of their skin color. For a black person (or any other PoC for that matter) not wanting to date a white person, it’s based off of fear of abuse and oppression. Now a gay guy not wanting to date a woman? That’s solely based off of gender preference. It’s not sexist whatsoever. How DARE you compare race and gender to sexuality.

Firstly. “Why? The cissexist asshole doesn’t want to date a trans person because of their fucking genitals.” That is a valid reason to date/not date someone. You have no place to label someone based off what they look for in a partner. Its their right to choose what they look for in a partner, and should not be judged for it. Plain and simple. 

Secondly. If you think the only physical difference between whites and blacks is skin color, you need to step out the house and look at some black people for once in your life. There are actual physical differences between different races, differences that some find attractive and some don’t, and they are not racist for finding that so. And yes, skin color is also a valid reason to not find someone physically attractive, to each his own. 

I don’t understand why every thing has to be a matter of discrimination you guys, the person has what she wants in her mind, so thats what she is going to go for, plain and simple. 

:/ Really. Really. Fucking really. Are. Are you. *gently puts hand to face* It’s fucking cissexist to not date somebody because of their genitals. It’s racist to not date a black person because they’re black. Relationships are based off of romantic attraction. Not what somebody has in their fucking pants. Also, you’re seriously racist if you say “black people have physical differences so it’s ok for them to not want to date a black person” because that literally sums up to “black people are physically different and it’s ok for them to find black people disgusting”

I have an asexual friend who is going to be shocked to learn that she is transphobic, mysogynistic, misandric, racist, anti-semitic, thin-phobic, fat-phobic, and an ableist. 

What a bitch for not being sexually and romantically interested in people of those groups.

:/

It’s one thing to be ace and or aro but it’s another thing to be sexual and exclude certain groups you know

Why is that?  If an asexual/aromantic can not feel sexual or romantic attraction to everyone, why isn’t it okay to feel sexual or romantic attraction to particular groups?

It is terrifying how “rapey” your point of view comes across - implying that “certain groups’ have some sort of right for everyone to find them attractive as a potential sexual or romantic partner - or to say “if you find ANYONE attractive, you must find ME attractive or you’re a bigot”.

I’ve said it before, but no one owes you anything. The sorority girls at UCSB didn’t owe it to Elliot Roger to sleep with him.  Maren Sanchez wasn’t obligated to go to prom with the boy who attacked her when she turned him down.  Nobody even owes you any explanation at all about why they aren’t attracted to you sexually and/or romantically.  You need to just take no for an answer. 

Calling someone transphobic, sexist, misogynistic, or whatever because they aren’t interested in you in that way makes you look like an entitled rape apologist.  You’re telling the world that somehow the other person is “bad” for rejecting you: that you have a right to their affection.  You don’t, and to even suggest otherwise is absolutely terrifying and the epitome of rape culture.

Ew ew EW I had NEVER BROUGHT UP THAT POINT doNT SHO VE WORDS INTO MY MOUTH This isn’t even aboUT THAT MRA PIECE OF SHIT FIRST OF ALL second of all, if you don’t feel a romantic or sexual attraction to anybody that’s WAY DIFFERENT than feeling sexual attraction but not to an entire GROUP IM TRYING TO SAY THAT ITS FUCKING RACIST NOT TO DATE SOMEONE BECAUSE OF THEIR RACE, AND ITS CISSEXIST NOT TO DATE SOMEBODY SIMPLY BECAUSE THEYRE TRANS IF YOURE ARO OR ACE AND THATS THE REASON GHAT YOU DO NT DATE OR CHOOSE TO HAVE SEX WITH SOMEBODY THEN THATS A OK DO NOT TURN THE FUCKING CONVERSATION TO RAPE CULTURE BECAUSE
THATS NOT WHAT THE FUCK THIS IS ABOUT

Rape culture is EXACTLY what this is about.  Calling people bigots because of who they are sexually or romantically attracted to is rape culture. 

You seem to miss my point:  No one owes you ANY reason for not being attracted to you.  It is supporting rape culture to say that they even NEED a reason to not be attracted to you.  It doesn’t matter if they’re not attracted to you because of the color of your hair, the size of your hands, the color of your skin, what genitals you have, or just the fact that you remind them of someone they hate.  They don’t owe you a reason.  You have no right to their affection.  Calling them bigots tells the world that you think they are somehow “bad” or “wrong” or not finding you attractive - that if they were good people, they would want to date you. 

Your statements about aromantic and asexual people being okay but that if someone has romantic feelings, they must have those feelings for everyone is literally the same reasoning Elliot Rogers had - that if the sorority girls were sleeping with other guys, they were obligated to sleep with him too.  He had decided that because they were sexually active but not willing to sleep with him, they were sluts and deserved to die. 

I don’t get how you don’t see that this is all about rape culture.  People are autonomous beings with every right to decide who they do and don’t want to date or sleep with and to criticize them for those choices is the very foundation of rape culture.