I think that if someone feel like something is inherently offensive you ought to reword whatever you said.
Like, if a POC came up to me and said “what you are doing is racist and I don’t appreciate it”, the first thing I would want to do is make them comfortable. I would fix what I did. Because me being comfortable is way less important when it comes to a situation where I have the privilege.
Never question when someone who is under discrimination finds something harmful in your words or actions.
Okay there are soo many trolls and whatnot reblogging this so I thought I might just weigh in here and clarify what I think Sam was trying to say. Obviously she didn’t mean do everything an oppressed person says. What she’s trying to get at is valuing oppressed people’s feelings rather than her own (when she’s in a position of privilege).
It’s important to recognise that in a position of privilege you won’t be as offended by certain things as people of marginalised groups will. They are the ones who know more about the oppression they face, and we should always be listening to them. When being called out on something you should listen to these oppressed people and shouldn’t just brush it off because you may think what they’re saying is ridiculous.
Obviously reason comes into this. If you were doing something like just breathing and someone said “that’s racist!” she wouldn’t stop fucking breathing. Although I think this is more the trolls just trying to be funny and argue rather than people actually misunderstanding Sam’s point.
TL;DR, the point of the post is that as a privileged person, your views and your comfort are not as important as the oppressed person’s feelings, experiences and opinions on certain situations.
If any of the other mods want to weigh in on this, they can. I probably missed a few points out.
It is so interesting that the most racist person posting on the topic is calling everyone else trolls. You’re sitting here and saying that people of color are so fragile and delicate that their “feelings, experiences and opinions” need to be raised above everyone else’s. They need Kieran and Sam from the feminism-fuck-yeah blog on Tumblr to be their white knights and educate others. How would they ever get by without you convincing everyone to place their comfort above our own?
Do you really think you’re doing any favors to people of color? Civil rights leaders would be ashamed of you acting like dialog is a bad thing. Discussion is what changes minds. Ordering people to obey without question just fuels resentment.